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1. agree mediation should be compulsory where all parties have explained how divorce law works - to many misconceptions about what peeps end up with asset wise. Also if one party does not agree to mediation then divorce should be is harder to obtain- too easy for peeps to shirk their responsibility.
2.Costs on a scale on ability to pay - if you don't qualify for legal aid i.e me!!! then you pay the going rate which is a very high rate for a low earner. i pay more in an hour for my solicitor than i earn in a week!!
3. Think as well as mediation counselling should be encouraged and perhaps even a few compulsory sessions before divorce even considered. One it may save a marriage, two it may make things more amicable and three it may prevent some repeat patterns and hopefully lead to less marriage breakdowns. This should also be free and readily avilable. Had to wait months for an appointment in this area so went privately in the end. Didn't save the marriage but at least made sure we didn't screw our son up more than he is. Have to say more available conselling even if divorce inevitable may be better than having more solicitor involvement.
4. not sure if this exists but all solicitors to have to follow a code of practice in being concillatory in their actions. the amount of money i have wasted due to my stbx solicitor being agressive in their stance and no way near considering the matrominial act is disgusting.
5. I believe it is to easy for peeps to walk out on a marriage if the going gets tough and a lot fail to see actions have consequences. I think the mediation and counselling will be far better than trying to prove grounds which essentially could be complete fabrication
You are probably going to tell me that I was misguided but here goes.
As I said before my divorce came through within 7 months of my ex leaving. Here we are another 6 months down the line and the Financial side still isnt sorted.
We had to apply to the court to protect my pension rights before the absolute was granted. (My ex is military)
Well that is what I was told. You are going to tell me now that we could have stopped the Absolute going through arent you?