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its a problem that people dont generally seem to realise how division of assets works at divorce,-especially regarding one party owning the FMH- and how benaviour/ conduct is irrelevant to that dvision.
someway of making solicitor's fees transparent and then making solicitor's accountable for their fees....I know it's a difficult question saying 'how much is the divorce going to cost me' and can depend on so many factors, but even having a solicitor admit 'it can depend on how difficult you want to be and how difficult your stbx is going to be' can help people focus and realise the seriousness, at least financially, of what is about to happen.
Getting solicitors to explain the WHOLE process, up front, would also help. I had no idea of what might happen between a Decree Nisi and absolute and not one of the solicitors I saw (and I saw a fair few in making a decision) explained about how children and finances are separate and again, how the behaviour of both parties can push the cost up.
Getting solicitors to develop relationships with their wider divorce-support community could also help - having a list of counsellors, address of local Relate, web resources (wiki!) that kind of thing, can help people who are unsure of where things are going for them. Often we seem to consult solicitors first before doing anything else and his sends us down the divorce path when perhaps things might have been helped with a push in the right direction - might be wishful thinking, but I would like to think my solicitor could point me in the right direction if I broke down and said 'I feel so lonely, who can help me?'.
I agree with Mummybear that the Statement of Arrangements for children seems meaningless in reality. A jointly agreed parenting plan that is legally binding (probably arrived at through mediation) would hopefully make parents look at their responsibilities seriously and work together for the benefit of their children's futures.