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04 Nov 12 #364626 by soulruler
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I have not been involved directly with child proceedings though the courts but I am very heavily involved with social services interventions in my financial remedy and a lot of information regarding my three children has gone into the bundles and been adduced during my protracted, supposedly financial proceedings.

I agree with Rubes when she states that child proceedings shouldn''t feel like criminal proceedings, mainly I suppose as I have felt I have been treated like a criminal with many outrageous and obviously false statements put to court regarding me, my children and my financial status.

It is obviously very contentious and difficult when allegations of conduct are put into childrens court without significant evidence one way or another as to whether either a court or a different authority should be alarmed. It is however, equally alarming when you find yourself up against malicious and unfounded allegations especially if those allegations are taken seriously by the courts and your counter evidence that they are false are ignored - rights to a fair trial and not to be prejudiced because of your gender or age (children seem to be the poor relation when it comes to rights in a divorce - I agree we are miles behind other nations on that score).

I am hoping sort of veinly maybe that when and if my case does eventually filter through and out of the top of UK Courts into High Court Queens Bench RCJ that a little more clarity and light will be shed regarding the conduct of spouses during divorce, post divorce and regarding their children. The somewhat sexist view that appears to prevail at present that men are at a disadvantage regarding children and often attempt to disadvantage their wifes and children regarding finance does need to be exposed and disposed of.

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