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28 Feb 13 #381750 by Enough Already
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I quite agree that solicitors are disproportionately expensive and any sort of legal action is cost-prohibitive in these austere times.

People have the choice to self rep but I would not say that is the best option in anything but a simple matter where you are not going to be outnumbered and outsmarted by your ex''s legal reps.

I guess we have to wait and see what happens next...

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09 Apr 13 #388316 by Enough Already
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In the last week in the news I have seen two stories about domestic divorce squabbles that have ended up in murder and attempted murder. The one today involved a small child. These are just the (reported) tip of the iceberg.

I know that people can be unhinged and there are many reasons for these things but I do wonder how much is caused by the heightened feelings around divorce and what could be done to save these sometimes completely innocent victims.

RIP to those deceased. I am sure it was preventable with some assistance from outside. It just highlights to me that things need to change so that people are not pushed to their limits.

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02 Jun 13 #395566 by NoWhereToTurnl
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I read through this post again at 4am, sleep proving impossible and watching greater spotted woodpeckers feeding their young outside the window.

For some days I have been going through a myriad of emotions but, always come full circle to the unfairness of the postcode lottery of judgements.

As some of you will know, I had my FH trial, variation of joint lives order at the beginning of May. The deputy judge (we were supposed to have a circuit judge) declined to give judgement so as to have time to listen to the transcripts and re-read all the documents.

During the proceedings, that have dragged on for 14 months, my ex has constantly gone against everything ordered by different judges, failed to disclose accounts, premium bonds, cash, directorships etc, did not supply the information needed for the actuarial report and gathered a penal notice on the way.

Early last week, I finally received a copy of the judgement and a date in July for it to be handed down. For this reason, I am unable to go into details and in some respect the details are irrelevant to this post.

In his summing up, which is lengthy, the judge has made a number of comments, one in particular makes a mockery of the system:

It said, "In my opinion, there is no evidence to show that Mr X has not complied with the court timetable or deliberately failed to disclose financial assets". In the bundle there were pages with more proof than enough, yet it was ignored. It would also appear that after a very long marriage, my joint lives order, was not worth the paper it was written on. The life insurance policy to cover my payments in the event Mr X dies, was not mentioned.

Late last week, when doing some searches, I came across this, my judge had obviously not read it;

www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-21534453

So now I have another wait, the judge wants counsel to attend so further legal fee''s to add to mounting debt and a future I am terrified about, you will gather its not good and I will post details after the hand down. :(

Best wishes to all of you in this awful situation.

NWTT.

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