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31 Mar 12 #320998 by mumof5
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Good afternoon all

My concern is how to tell my 11yo that her dad is having a new baby, My daughter has not seen her dad in nearly 5 years and i was told the news last night by his niece.

My ex was never there for our children and still is"nt but thats his problem, my problem is my youngest,she still has nightmares over the dv that she witnessed and still has bedwetting incidents which we are now getting help for.

I just do not want to see her having a setback through this,

Do i tell her or just leave it,
My older children will not be saying anything to her its, in case a family member happens to mention it in front of her,

there is no chance of her seeing the new baby as he still cannot get her into this country[they have been trying for 5 years]

Can someone offer some advice please?

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31 Mar 12 #321030 by fairylandtime
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Hi mumof5

I think it would be worse for your dtr to find out from someone else or by accident, it would be better to come from you.

But how to do that is another matter, have t been in your situate. But have alway tried to tell my 2 children everything, but sometimes I am not sure if that has been for the best. It is hard & in a way you are dammed if you do & dammed if you don''t.

Does she know her dad has another partner? If so is there a yay you can break it to her gently, she may be stronger than you think.

Good luck JJx

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