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I am loosing my children to violant person..

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31 Mar 12 #321007 by juditebbb
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Hello.. It was real quick when me and my husband got married and first daughter two years ago. I got pregnant straight away and we got pregnant when I was 6 month pregnant. just month later after our wedding day I realised that this person is very disrespectfull and selfish, careless. He has hit me couple of times in midle of the night becouse baby was crying. He never spent a minute to care for her. I forgave him that and we got other daughter just year ago. In meantime I asked him to move from his parents house where we lived in one bedroom and it became too small. he was never interested to do that, it was too expencive. in the end his granparents offerd us to move in one of them property - to rent it. so we did and just before second child came in the world. We would never moved if I would not try to speed it up by talking to his granparents as I have no family here in UK. I had been working through all the pregnancy very hard night shifts in supermarket to be able to pay a rent and bills, fill the fridge up and support children with everything they need. I never got any support, just harrasment, punches, hits, bad words and so.. I could never prove it. couple of times I called police and report him, but he returned loughing, he told I am making it all up. Ofcourse they believe him as I have no evidence and they didnt want to listen to my sisters evidence who was in fackt with me one time I calld police. One day I just got enough after he never let me sleep after hard night work and was musturbating over my head for about 6 times and loughing and telling me that he has finished on my head. That day I got up after when I realised that I will never get sleep and choose dates to have a holiday over in my home country. I nevr told him that, and I went and took my children with me. When I returned I got seved prohibited steps order which dont allow to take kids out of the country and my oldest daughter out of his care and control. He is working full time, he left my oldest daughter with his parents and I cant remove her. I did apply for disharge of PSO but still no result and even no court hearings. just two month ago my jangest daughter got very bad injury wilst I was at work and she was in her dads care, hospital said it is non acsidental injury so he was told to not come close to family home, so I had been asked by his family to move out. I was waiting fot eviction order but undrstood that I will never get it as I have been told by my husband '''' I ll do everything you cant get anywhere to live, so you will leave your kids and stay back in your country''''. And he hit me again. he broak my phones and hide evidence, hi riped my clothes and hide them as well. right now I have no home, I am not allowd to contact my kids, to take them out becouse I am homeless, I do everything I can to find something, but nothing works. Council is rejecting me, I dont understand why. I had lost a believe in my solicitor, becouse it all is taking too long time. I am afraid that I will have to leave this country and leave kids in his care, (by the way he is not allowed unsupervised contact).. I want to go back to my homecountry, live there, give children a good, happy, stabil and safe life. I dont have a think in my head how to do it at the minute..

thanks..

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31 Mar 12 #321010 by livinginhope
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I am so ,so sorry that you and your children are in this situation.I think you need urgent help from people who are used to dealing with situations like yours.I would suggest you contact Womens Aid and I''m sure they will offer you help and advice.You can''t cope with this alone.
Love LIH xxxx

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31 Mar 12 #321011 by sexysadie
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So, just to be clear, who is looking after the children now?

Best wishes,
Sadie

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31 Mar 12 #321024 by juditebbb
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Becouse I havent found a home yet children are with him and his parents. I do really feel sorry for those tiny girls... :(I had been talking to every instance I could, but havnt got any help. Everybody just saying I have to find a home within couple of weeks.. I am running up and down east england to look at properties, but as soon as I say I am single mum - I get rejected.
I really do more than I can..

I am not allowed to take my children out becouse I am homeless at the minute..

is that fare?

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31 Mar 12 #321028 by Emma8485
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Hi you have said that he isnt allowed unsupervised contact but they are living with him - could you clarify that?

Also who has said that you cant take them out because you are homeless? Where are you staying currently?

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31 Mar 12 #321042 by sillywoman
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Oh my God what a disgusting pig.

Surely you can find a hostel for yourself and the girls?

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01 Apr 12 #321050 by juditebbb
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social services and solicitors had told I cant just turn up and take kidies out, that I have to arrange all the contact through solicitors.. otherwise if i talk to them on phone they twist everything and are lieing that im rood and so.. I just had lost evrything and dont know what to do..
but I am not giving up!
I ll fight for fareness and trues!
I am staying in guest house but kidies with husbands parents together with him as well...
I hope soon something is going to change and I ll get them back..

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