We all have new dilemmas do deal with in our new found circumstances and it can be very frustrating, annoying and difficult. We can complain & blame. others and rightly so.....?
But.. at the end of the day if we know that the OH or whoever is not going to offer help (I''m sure not in all cases).. You are going to have to take responsibility for everthing yourself and try and be prepared with a contingency plan when you''re let down.
At the end of the day if you do this you will be in control of circumstances and situations as they arise and hopefully less stressed wen things don''t go according to plan.
I know it''s frustrating when you can''t get help, I still get annoyed at times but I try my best to "be prepared " as much as possible.
Our children don''t need stress and didn''t ask to be in this position
Take care. & good luck xx
not really about the car thing anymore but one thing i''m really struggling with is the resentment/bitterness. Even to the extent that I don''t want him to have friends... like, if people can be so cruel, how can they deserve to have people actually like them! It''s like I want to put posters up/tell the world how uncaring/hurful he is. Wrong. I know and is hurting me more really, but I am in a real place of life not being bl**dy fair! He''s happy to sit in the pub all day, does nothign with the kids when he has them, give me no money (S/E so hides it all), so has a jolly ole life. I''m worn out working to support ALL our 2 kiddies need, no hope of any social life (no money) or partner!! Soz to rant x
Hi, I know exactly how you feel. Stbx is living it up, holidays, expensive clothes, golf, eating out most nites, has a very well paid job and is basicly having the time of his life etc etc.
Im unemployed & trying to find work. I have one child at home and another comes weekends from uni. Without them I probably wouldn''t have coped.
The worst thing for me is Stbx has told many lies in court, personal and financial to the point Im at the end of my tether at times. Never sure what he''s gonna do next!
Our Court procedings have been adjourned on many occassions due to his lack of response etc Going again on Tues and I know already it will be adjourned as he''s not provided info again. Also Im sure him and his legal team will have more tricks up their sleeves, as well.
What I dont get is ''why'' he is doing this, it just doesnt make sense. He''s with someone else, which I dont mind, (Im just glad to be rid, my decision). He has all his time to himself, child every other weekend, a good job, lots of cash! But still seems intent in trying to tarnish my character and trying to ensure our family get as little as possible.
Anyway, as I am naturally a fighter, I refuse to let this man affect the rest of my life and I suggest you try your best to do the same. Just take one dilema or day at a time, deal with, and move on to next. Dont get me wrong, its really hard at times....I have very bad days too! But I know that I am the only one in control of my life and it is up to me to make it work.