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Ex hates new BF

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05 May 12 #328566 by rachael5
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many thanks!!!

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05 May 12 #328588 by Fiona
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All you can do is try to handle this carefully. Introducing new partners is a potential minefield and often a catalyst for many years of ongoing high levels of conflict between separated parents which is detrimental to chlidren''s emotional well being.

The priority is your child and children can grieve for the loss of their parent''s relationship and find it difficult readjusting to different family structures, particularly if the new relationship doesn''t work out and their are multiple changes.

Your husband may have difficulties with the break up of your relationship, particularly if it wasn''t his decision to end it, living separately means he isn''t so financially well off and/or he is missing time with your child or feels his relationship with your child is under threat from a new partner. What you need to try to do is reassure him that you are trying to be as sensitive as you can but ultimately if your husband is hostile to you or your new partner that is his issue.

In the UK the terms "custody" and "access" were replaced some years ago with "residence" and "contact." Residence can be in favour of one parent or shared. "Visitation" is an Americanization. The courts don''t stop parents moving on with their lives and cohabiting won''t normally affect where a child lives.

Technically if you have sexual intercourse when you are still married you are committing adultery. If your husband is obstructive it may take longer but it won''t stop the divorce. Intention to cohabit or remarry should be disclosed when settling the finances. If you live together your new partner should be contributing to the household you share together reducing your living costs which may affect spouse maintenance if it is an issue.

Hope that helps. :)

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