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15 May 12 #330666 by Tinkerbell37
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Hi there..
My partners ex has just informed us and their children that they can no longer contact or see my partner.
She has told their son he can''t talk to us and has unplugged her landline,banned their son from the computer and won''t answer txt or emails.
The reason being my partner has had to cut the monthly maintenance from £620 a month to £408 a more manageable amount for himself and one that was set by the csa.
Can someone please advise our best course of action now
Many thanks!!

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15 May 12 #330670 by pixy
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Do you have a contact order. If not get one. Lots of advice on the site about how to do this. The courts take a dim view of this sort of thing. Might be a good idea to contact Families need Fathers.

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15 May 12 #330690 by Tinkerbell37
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No...we don''t...all come out of the blue so just trying to find out where to start!!!
How long do we wait before applying for 1?
Thanks for answering :)

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15 May 12 #330691 by Tinkerbell37
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No...we don''t...all come out of the blue so just trying to find out where to start!!!
How long do we wait before applying for 1?
Thanks for answering :)

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15 May 12 #330717 by perin123
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How awful to use a child like that? I would have thought the only way is to seek a court order, but I have no idea how long that would take?

Fingers crossed for you.

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15 May 12 #330723 by Fiona
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Apart from a few exceptional cases before a court will hear a case the applicant needs to arrange a mediation Information & Assessment Meeting so it''s worth putting that in motion. Your partner can apply for a contact order at the same time. Another option is to negotiate through solicitors.

Separated parents often react in anger and depending what means are available to them withhold financial support or contact. Once they have calmed down and an independent third party spells out that contact and finances are treated separately they may change their mind.

IF then no agreement can be reached and the case progresses to court the mediator/solicitor might persuade someone that denying all contact in the interim will be deemed unreasonable unless there is evidence of serious welfare concerns. Otherwise your partner will need to wait 6 weeks or so after applying before a first court appointment and if there is still no agreement it can take months before there is a final decision..

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15 May 12 #330725 by rugby333
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As an NRP and as a man, your partner is in a particularly difficult position. Entering the court arena on contact is a nightmare for him: it''ll take years if his ex decides to be difficult and he will lose.

Therefore, sadly, your best bet is to cut maintenance altogether and then bargain with her.

She will scream blue murder, but just ignore it.

If finances go to court you will have to fill in form E which has a section asking if any other litigation is going on, so the court is very familiar with financial disputes causing contact problems. The courts priority will be to sort out the whole mess without punishing either of you rather.

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