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11 Aug 12 #348881 by mumandboys
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My Ex husband has had the boys for a week and says he can not bring the boys home tomorrow ( they are due back tomorrow )

He has said i have to go collect them or i will have to wait till the end of the month before he can return them. He lives an hour and a halfs drive away. I have suggested his parents bring them back as they were the ones who collected them and apparently the can not do that. I have suggested the train and again he can not do that.

He is wanting me to drive, Ok i can drive but i have only just passed my test and have only just gotten a car, i am no way confident enough to anywhere near a motorway.

Neither of us have any orders in place.

I had a feeling this would happen and mentioned it to my solicitor back in June.

What are your opinions in this and what would you do next.

I really would like to avoid the police going to collect the boys but if needs be i guess it will have to be done.

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11 Aug 12 #348885 by sexysadie
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It is very unlikely that the police will bring the children back in this situation. They are safe and with their father so they would see no reason to intervene.

How about you going and getting them by train? I know it is a pain but there don''t seem to be many other options.

Best wishes,
Sadie

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11 Aug 12 #348890 by mumandboys
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I would go and get them ive only got £20 to last me till Tues, to get me there and kids back it will cost £63 pound :(

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11 Aug 12 #348891 by Fiona
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This is a family law matter, not an issue for the police. If there are welfare concerns the police will check children are OK but have no authority to remove them unless the children are in danger.

If you aren''t confident about driving could you not go on the train to collect them this time and then resolve the issue through your solicitor for the future? The alternative would be to apply to court for interim residence as an emergency and to have them returned but that is rather drastic if there is another way of resolving the issue. In any case a court might expect you to share some of the traveling, particularly if you were the one who moved away.

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11 Aug 12 #348892 by mumandboys
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Whoooo No i wasnt the one to move away! I would go get them by train but will have to wait till tuesday. I am not confident my ex will show up if i got the train down.

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11 Aug 12 #348910 by fairylandtime
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Mum&boys

Is there any one who could ride with you to collect your boys? Or who could take you?

It doesn''t seem fair that your x can do this tbh but nothing you can do really.

Or could you borrow the funds from someone for the train ... On the proviso that the boys are there & waiting.

Good luck

JJx

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