I am writing on behalf of my partner who is desperate to regain some contact with his children.
They separated 4 years ago.
They have two sons, one is 7, one is 12.
Their financial matters went all the way to Final Hearing and even that is still ongoing.
His ex wife suffers from depression and anxiety.
There is much bitterness and heartache over various issues and the children have been very much been in the middle. I could write for hours regarding issues that have taken place during this time but we really feel this is about moving forward now so I will just highlight the main issues.
The marriage break up was messy, he left her for me, and has never been left to forget that. There was no sit down chat with the children about what happened,they were just told “Daddy doesn’t love us anymore and is leaving us”. This pretty much sets the tone for the last four years... daddy doesn’t care, daddy won’t pay for you, daddy has a new life, all the usual waffle.
The children have come to us for periods of time, then they don’t, then they do etc etc. We were on an alternate weekend schedule from Jan 2017 and took them on holiday in Aug 2017. We expected the schedule to resume after the holiday but it didn’t, without explanation. Since then we have seen them handful of times.
Various communication has taken place through her solicitor but We are now at complete stalemate, and been told to “get a court order”.
We are waiting to confirm a date for a MIAM to move forward, I just wanted to reach out and see what other people’s experiences were with
mediation.
These two boys love their dad and need him in their lives! My partner misses them so much. We would like them to come for a few hours on a Saturday afternoon (twice a month) and maybe once a week after school for their tea. She’s now saying they don’t want to come but I guess that’s what CAFCASS help with?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
