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Should I give up on my child.

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7 months 3 days ago #511001 by Anusha
Should I give up on my child. was created by Anusha

Its been 8yrs since i got married, i am an Indian(got british passport) , it was an arranged marriage, i didn't even see him before getting married. We were seperated for 2 yrs 2013 to 2015 and i had to get back to him with my parent's pressure and he promised me that he is going to be good with me this time. I had this huge pressure to get pregnant from his family, he was fine and wasnt abusive untill i gave birth to my son. He started being disrespectful and abusive(basically being himself ).

I decided to get divorced and was working on it. Then he moved to Australia from UK.
So my parents tricked me being really nice and made me to visit India.

My mum blackmailed me that she is going to suicide if i dont go to Australia to join my husband. I did say him that i dont want to live with him but no one bothered about what i am saying.

Here i am in Australia now trying my best to get seperated. I want my son to be with me. I dont have a job but i have few savings. I am going to UK to get everything sorted, apparently i cant take my son away without my husband's permission. My husband is not giving me permission instead he is planning to take him away to India. I cant do anything if he goes india, Indian laws are rubbish. You can bribe the judge too.

I don't want this person to be in my life anymore, its been really stressful. He is abusive and i dont want my son to be raised by him.

But if i stay a few more days with him, i will definitely commit a suicide. Will i have to give up on my son and go to UK??

I am scared if i leave my son now, i may never get to see him :(??

Much appreciate your support and suggestions

Thanks in Advance

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7 months 3 days ago #511008 by hadenoughnow
Replied by hadenoughnow on topic Re:Should I give up on my child.
So sorry to hear of your situation.

Are there any organisations in Australia that specifically support Indian women in your situation? Or maybe any organisation that supports women who want to escape an abusive marriage?

Does he have Australian citizenship? Does your son?

Neither of you should be able to take your son out of the country without permission. You may be able to apply to the forts to stop him doing so.

Unfortunately as we are a UK site we cannot advise in any detail about Australian Law. Have a look here
www.familyrelationships.gov.au/parenting/children-family-law .

We can offer understanding and support though.

Your son needs you so please try to stay strong for him.


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