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01 Mar 20 #511661 by rachael5
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Hello all,

I’ve been in touch with the very helpful Wikivorce advisors but I’d also like to ask people here on the forum. Any tips much appreciated.

I have to move to another country for work, it’s in Europe and just an hour away by plane. My tween child lives with me and sees his dad every other weekend. The job is much better paid than what I had in the UK and the country will offer a great quality of life. I’ve told the father but he’s very angry and opposed to it and said he’s taking it to court. I had legal advice and the solicitor was very clear that it’s a very common situation and it’s nearly certain that I’ll win. But of course it’ll mean money and time - and I want to move at the end of the school year.

What shall I do? Shall I get a solicitor to draft a letter and send to the father? Shall I get the Right to Remove document from court? What are my best next steps?

Just to be clear: I’ve told the father that I’m willing to be very flexible in terms of allowing contact, the child is old enough to fly on his own and visit the father every second weekend like now, and I’ll pay for it. The child himself is thrilled about the move but scared of upsetting his father so I’m not sure what he will tell him even though he tells me he really wants to move. I have to choose a house next to the school and enroll him into the school etc - so I don’t have much time and would like to speed this up... any advice would be great. Thank you!

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01 Mar 20 #511662 by rubytuesday
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Sending a solicitor's letter is very likely to inflame the situation, it's quite a heavy handed approach. It would be much better if you send him your detailed proposals yourself, with a view to opening up a constructive discussion.

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01 Mar 20 #511663 by rachael5
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Thanks. Indeed, I agree. But I already sent him a detailed email outlining everything and how the contact will continue to be maintained, and he says that he is taking it to court and I should prepare for a court fight. So he seems serious about it. That's why I wonder if the next step should be an official legal letter?..

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