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24 Apr 20 #512208 by LeMoss1973
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I am seeking any advice possible. I am representing myself through my divorce as the financial and child parental agreement has all been signed and agreed and i did not feel the need for a solicitor but right now my ex is refusing to let me have the children for longer (kids are 7 and 9)

Obliviously during this period of Covid-19 circumstances change. My girlfriend is living with me, (as requested in an email by my ex that this was the best course of action and would support me with the kids), we have been together 9 months. She has now met the kids and the kids have stayed over. We are managing the kids as we see best fit (Baby steps, where possible). I have requested an addendum to the PA as the times clearly do not work as i cannot pick up from their child minders/grandmas or after club. So for example my time on a Tuesday is 6pm to drop off at child minders at 0815. I have requested that there is no school etc. that i can have them from 3pm (after school) Tuesday to 3pm the following. Same on a Thursday/Friday also. I have been told no, stick to the PA. Then i get text messages stating you can have the kids earlier on each of these days and then you can home school at the kids house. This is not possible due to the fact there is an argument within 2 minutes of us being in the same room, plus i want them at my house.

I have drafted 3 emails to my ex and also her solicitor since Monday 13th April and no response. I am not sure if i can do anything legally. I have asked for mediation, my ex refuses stating that everything is OK her end. It is clearly not and my kids are upset and scared to tell her anything. She also has a boyfriend of 4 months which the kids have met but they now feel pressured that my ex is forcing him on them, text messages/face time/ constantly turning up. This is made out to be my fault with my girlfriend and the kids are reacting because of me.

I really do not know what i am or not entitled to do now and given the situation i cannot afford £1,000 + solicitors fees.


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