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18 Jun 21 #517023 by Mumto3plus2
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Could anyone give advice on a stalemate with the ex.

-I have requested specific dates to take the children away this summer (travel permitting)
-The ex refused and said he had plans to take the children away the same time. His plans hadn't been communicated to me
-He believes he should take priority over me and will book to take the children without my permission.

What should I do?

Nothing is ever resolved unless it ends up in court.

Would it be sensible to make an application to the court to take the children away? He has previously refused one of the children's school trips abroad. He has also previously refused to allow me to take the children to their Uncle's wedding (he lives overseas) I tried to reach agreement for both and consequently did not have enough time to apply to court

I have attempted for 2 years to have a parenting plan in place to cover situations such as this, but he refuses to engage with it.

The children live with me. He sees them for 2 days/month.

Any advice would be very gratefully received.

Thank you

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21 Jun 21 #517029 by rubytuesday
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Are there any court orders in place for your children? If not, and you aren't able to have an agreement over the child arrangements, then it may be better to have a Child Arrangements Order to set out how often the children will be with each of thier parents. If an order states that the children live with a particular parent as opposed to having contact with them, then that parent can take the children out of the UK for no more than 28 days - and doesn't need the consent of the other parent.
Having a CAO would help regulate the children's time with each parent, meaning there shouldn't be a need for continuous wrangling over dates and holiday arrangements.

Another alternative would be to apply for a Specific Issue Order - and request a blanket order that will allow you take them abroad on holiday up to the age of 16 without having to request consent from your ex each and every time.

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21 Jun 21 #517031 by Mumto3plus2
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Thank you very much.

There are no court orders in place for the children, just a financial order.

A specific issue order might be really useful. He only sees the children 48 hours/month outside of this time. The main problem is getting his permission to take the children on holiday. This is the 3rd time.

Is there anybody that could help me with making this application to court?

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21 Jun 21 #517032 by rubytuesday
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You could call the Wikivorce helpline and ask about the fixed fee services?

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