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18 Jul 21 #517294 by alreid1612
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My 13 year old stepdaughter has had two years away from direct contact with her father following a child protection issue over emotional abuse. At some stage direct contact will resume. If it is imposed by the court upon the child ( as in half the holidays, alternate Christmas's etc) then we will be back in court when the child refuses to get on the plane to visit her father. My wife is not dragging her kicking and screaming onto a plane again despite what Munby thinks the resident parent should do.

Does anyone have any good suggestions as to how future direct contact in this case could be phrased to recognize the child's voice and feelings but also the desirability of having contact with her father as that is what the court will wish to see?

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18 Jul 21 #517295 by WYSPECIAL
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What makes you think direct contact will resume?
Has an application been made to court?
The wishes of a 13 year old won't be ignored by a court.

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18 Jul 21 #517297 by alreid1612
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Thanks, always the danger in trying to simplify the issue! A SJE has been appointed by the court to examine whether parental alienation has taken place. CafCass will report after the SJE report and recommend contact going forward. The 'red book' sees contact with each parent as the model. The child after two years without contact wants to go the father's idyllic location (who wouldn't) but only 'if he stops being horrible to me.' So I am sure the court will go for resuming contact, hopefully cautiously at first. My question is how can we have her assent or otherwise phrased in whatever CAO that comes out. We have already had one episode two years ago when she was put on the plane kicking and screaming and sorry Munby but we are not doing that again.

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