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I just want to see my half-brother

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10 years 1 month ago #206903 by BrokenPeaceKeeper
I just want to see my half-brother was created by BrokenPeaceKeeper
My parents have been divorced 12 years now, and they still bicker like small children. My dad has remarried and I have a 5 year old half brother. Recently he has been struggling to work out who my younger sister and brother are (he sees me less, so never really knows who i am, which is sad). He asks questions like 'is your daddy at home with your mummy', 'why do you come and see my daddy?' , my dad and stepmum don't answer any of his questions and refuse to explain the situtation to him. My sister suggested they did (as it was upsetting my younger brother, who is 13). My dad then blew up and refused and accused my sister of provoking the questions. He then took them to the nerest trainstation and left them there without any money and the final say in the arugment 'sod you then'.
The point is that I think all three of us no longer whant any contact with either my dad or stepmum, but we do want to stay in touch with our halfbrother.
Are there any legal steps we could take to allow us all to see each other? My stepmum won't let us see him on our own.
If you can help please reply or if you have been through a simular situation it would be good to have some advice. Thanks in advance. (We are aged 22,18 and 13 and our half brother is 5)

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10 years 1 month ago #206907 by eyes on horizon
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I can not really give you any legal insight but I just wanted to say that this thread nearly had me in tears.
This truly is the result of parents who can not see the big picture through their own selfishness, whats best for the children, no matter if they are bio, step, half or adopted.

I wish you the best and only hope that it works out for you. I am sure someone like Fiona will be along shortly with some proper help.

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10 years 1 month ago #206915 by Chezziebell
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Your post really is touching, for a number of different reasons.

It's so sad that you all can't see each other under 'normal' circumstances.

It's also a shame your Dad can't take some wise advice off your sister!

Whether your sister provoked the questions or not they are natural things to wonder for a 5 year old, who is trying to work things out, esp if he doesn't see you all that often!

Do you have a grandparent that could help facilitate the contact , either of your Dad's parents that could help with arrangements etc?

Or a friendly aunt or uncle that could help with contact while you sort this out with your Dad?

I am not sure if you can apply to court or if you would want to go that far, hopefully someone with legal experience will answer you.

In my experience I think you need parental responsibility to apply to court or you need to make a special request asking for leave for the court to consider your application (without parental responsibility.)

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10 years 1 month ago #206918 by Tets
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I think your situation is similar to grandparents seeking access to children, there is no legal presumption in favour of access for siblings so you would need to seek leave of the court to make an application (for access), you would need to demonstrate that access would be in the childs best interests.

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10 years 1 month ago #206924 by BrokenPeaceKeeper
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Thanks to everyone who has replyed so far!
My grandparents on my dads side are dead, and my dad is only on speaking terms with his sister my aunty on his side of the family. However she doesn’t look after my half-brother, and lives 3 hours away. I’ve been racking my brains for anyone who would or could help, and even if I found someone I don’t think my stepmum would allow it (more because she knows it would upset us, not to see him). I’ve suggested in the past if it would be possible to see him at his uncles (my stepmums brothers) house but he said he couldn’t because his sister wasn’t happy about it.
I don’t really want to take legal action against my dad and his wife, but nor do I want to miss out on seeing my half-brother. I think it would be especially hard for my sister if we never saw each other again, as they are very close.
What does ‘seek leave of the court’ mean? Is that the same as becomming a ward of court? How do you demonstrate that it is in a 5-year olds interest to continue to see his brother and sisters, surly that is common sence? My dad is a very powerful man, and always gets his own way I think the chances of us succeeding at this are slim, but we want to try. Are there really no rights between siberlings?

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10 years 1 month ago #206927 by mumtoboys
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What a sad story. Perhaps you could direct your dad and stepmum to your post here and hope they take the hint? If it were me, I would like to think that seeing something like that in writing would cause me incredible shame and bring me to my senses.
Good luck with it - your half-brother I am sure will appreciate your efforts as he grows older.

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10 years 1 month ago #206933 by Tets
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Normally when contact is being denied by one parent the other parent can seek assistance through the courts to impose contact arrangements, Only certain people can seek contact through the courts, anyone else asking the court to intervene and impose contact arrangements needs to seek permission from the court before applying. That is what is meant by \"seek leave of the court\".

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