emergency hearing/ contact

I applied last Friday the 4th for a variation of a contact order. Our son is meant to see dad from the 11th until the 13th of Feb. His baby sister's christening is on Sunday the 13th and I don't want him to miss this. Dad has declined returning son for the christening.

I have applied to court asking son to go with dad from the 11th and to be returned the 12th at 7pm instead of Sunday the 13th so that he doesn't miss baby sis's christening.

We'll see if it's granted.

My question is: Should I let dad know I've applied? I am worried that the summons won't reach him on time (this is a bit of a problem with our county court) and he won't be able to attend the hearing this Thursday the 10th.

Many thanks.

IMO I'd tell him as your request isnt unreasonable and he might agree to bringing your son back early when he realises he's going to look a bit of a d*ck in court for being so stubborn and pedantic (is that the right word?).
Lou xx

IMO he should back down and let the child attend the christening.

But why did you arrange it in his contact time? Did you not know that this was his time with the child when you booked the christening.

Thank you both for your input!

I had planned the christening ages ago, but the contact dates were set out in advance in court. I think I was just very nervous. I know that sounds incredibly daft of me, but it's the truth. I was a bit on edge.

Contact just hasn't been as issue, but ever since I had my little baby girl last year, my ex has become more difficult and unreliable with regards to contact. So here we are, back in court.

I don't understand what you mean about why the christening was booked in the contact time. Or if you mean that you booked the christening first and then forgot when you arranged the dates...

Seems a bit mad to go back to court. Can't you just apologise and offer him another time?

All the best anyway.

I planned the christening way before we went back to court (we just had our first hearing). So although I'd planned the christening a while back, it just slipped my mind completely at the first hearing where I was being taken back for contact, residence, and a PSO. I think I was just in too much shock. I wasn't expecting to go back to court and I felt incredibly nervous before the judge and my ex.

It's a lame excuse, but it's true. I think I'm just tired... teething baby and all of that stuff.

I've tried asking ex. His response was not to ask him again. Our relationship as parents has really tanked since I remarried and had my second child. Anyway, the court ordered mediation which isn't a bad thing.

Thanks again!

PS... my original question was: should I inform dad about emergency hearing in case the summons doesn't reach him on time?