My ex lives with his dad. my ex inlaws havent seen my son for 9mths or my 9month old daughter as they dont want any contact with me. me and my ex are civil for kids. I dont want my kids to be brought up like that. they say if i seen them with my kids in street i was to walk past and i couldnt contact my kids at all if they were with them and if my kids got ill they wouldnt contact me.
That would work great for me but my ex in laws have refused to see my kids as they dont want any contact with me. my husband ended our marriage becouse of this. There is a lot on the internet about grandparents rights but theres nothing you can do when grandparents refuse to see kids.
If you and your ex are civil how about trying to move contact gradually away from your home? For example he could still come to you and start taking the children out for a walk for half an hour and then increase that to an hour or so in the park, play centre or local library. A contact centre might be appropriate but it would be best if you could discuss the arrangements and reach an agreement with your ex, using a mediator if necessary.
Hi Fiona, we went to mediation to sort out access days. Thanks for your tips they are brilliant, Why didnt I think of that. I dont have much trust in my ex and this could help us build trust and move things forward rather than being stuck. Just shows when you are in a situation you often cant see simple but effective solutions. many thanks again. going to text my ex and see what he says.