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15 Jun 12 #336949 by BIGFOOT600
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It seems as if everything is going to be well but I can only wait until the day of next contact.

The Judge was very much in favour of my proposals and it was down to the ex to agree.

The current issues that got ordered were that my ex''s new partner is to back off from making my son believe he is my sons father and not to talk of me in any dispariging terms.

With that CAFCASS are now going to get involved.

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15 Jun 12 #336954 by Fiona
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Thanks for letting us know. I''m sorry it''s taking so long but at least it''s a step forwards. Are CAFCASS doing a welfare report or will they be getting involved more directly?

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15 Jun 12 #336956 by BIGFOOT600
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It will be a section 7 welfare report is there anything I should look into regarding this? So I am prepared

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15 Jun 12 #337000 by Fiona
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A s7 report is the standard welfare report. There is no set format but usually the CAFCASS officer will carry out a criminal records check and contact health visitors or school to see if there are any concerns about the child. The officer speaks with parents separately to gather background information, and they may ascertain the views of children. Conclusions are drawn and recommendations made.

As usual the important thing is not to get bogged down with the issues between parents when you speak to the officer and remain polite and child focused.

Hope that helps.

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21 Jun 12 #338214 by khan72
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BIGFOOT,
In your CAFCASS interview only talk about your child(ren). Concentrate on them. When the CAFCASS lady asks you about anything to do with your ex. Be brief and polite then bring it back to your relationship with your children. eg "I am aware of XXX''s allegations. I do not agree with them and that is a matter for the court to decide. I just want to concentrate on my child(ren) and just make sure I am there for them..."
They sneakily look for animosity towards partner. My ex fell for the bait and CAFCASS called for a fact finding. I had actually told the CAFCASS lady that I understnad she is doing her job and that she is looking after my childs best intrests and that i will work with her positively. I told her I knew it would take a long time, but i will get there in the end. Its a process and I will follow it. She was very appreciative. Be aware - i was actually being honest with her. Its been a long time but it has paid dividends.

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21 Jun 12 #338235 by BIGFOOT600
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Thanks Khan.

On that notification I can further update the whole situation due to a letter received today from solicitor to let me know ex is moving mid July to a different area when it is currently in place for a CAFFCAS officer to visit betwen now and September in which is now going to be delayed along with getting my son established with a new school, friends, social worker and contact centre which provides assisted contact where at present I have found no such offer in the area. Due to my son only being 6 and having everything aimed at me in the past I have decided to put in a PSO to stop the move as it is only my ex''s partners best intrest to be closer to his family. However my solictor does not think it will be sanctioned but I think why not what is the point of it being possible if I do not stand a chance. Anyway it''s done now. Fingers crossed "not".

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