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CAFCASS phone call. What to expect?

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22 Jun 12 #338378 by Confused67
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Hi all.

First hearing regarding my Contact Order is in August and I just received a letter saying that a CAFCASS officer will call me in the next two-three weeks to hear my point of view on the matter etc.

I have been reading the site thoroughly but I am getting confused more than anything else.

Does anyone have any advise out of experience, to share?

What are the questions that I might be asked?

Grateful for anything you have to say that will help me to prepare mentally for this.

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22 Jun 12 #338381 by khan72
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They want to hear if you have any concerns about your child. They will ask you about the mother. Do not lie. Be honest. Be truthful. Do not take a dig at her. Resist the temptation.
Talk about you and your child and how you will enhance ur kids life. Insists that both parents go on a Parenting Information Programme - you will get brownie points.

Insist that the CAFCASS officer at the court talks to you. otherwise they get a one-sided view. its exactly what happened to me. DO INSIST ON CAFCASS TALKING TO YOU AT COURT.

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22 Jun 12 #338388 by Confused67
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Thank you for your useful tips khan72!

I didn''t know about the Parenting Information Programme. Extra brownie point for you on that! ;-)

I believed that BOTH parents are heard by the CAFCASS officer in court? Hmmm... this is truly something to watch for, as it seems.

I have no intention of badmouthing my ex, although many of my concerns stem from the way my ex handles the children and their life.
How do I go around this in a positive way is something I must work on...

Thanks again a lot!!

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22 Jun 12 #338415 by Fiona
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s2 Children Act 1989 states "where more than one person has parental responsibility for a child, each of them may act alone and without the other (or others) in meeting that responsibility." Therefore how a parent handles the children and their everyday life when they are with them is their concern.

The important issues those with PR must consult each other about are moving abroad permanently, changing a child''s name, important medical decisions and important educational decisions such as which school children should attend.

Of course there is a duty to protect children from harm, but unless there is independent evidence (school, doctors, social workers etc) that children aren''t surviving satisfactorily the authorities won''t normally interfere in parenting.

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22 Jun 12 #338426 by Confused67
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Thank you Fiona for your reply.

What if the children have no friends because the mother is taking them out only to the stores and to see her BF and no one is ever allowed to visit the home that looks like a wreck?

What if the mother is not enrolling them in any extracurricular activities because she wants to spend her time online talking to her BF or shopping for shoes?

What if both kids have speech therapists at school because they do not pronounce words properly?

IS this considered as harm?

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22 Jun 12 #338432 by stepper
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My son had a CAFCASS telephone interview. He kept it completely child focused and when he saw the report, it was very positive. He also attended the Parenting Programme which he found extremely useful.

However, prior to the last Hearing, the Judge asked for a wishes and feelings report. My son received a letter from CAFCASS informing him that he would be contacted for an appointment.

This never happened and he later found out that CAFCASS had interviewed the children at the home of their mother. He was not informed of this and only found out when the children told him about it.

With hindsight he should have telephoned CAFCASS on receipt of the letter and requested an appointment with the children. Because of the previous positive CAFCASS report he was lulled into a false sense of security.

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22 Jun 12 #338433 by Confused67
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Thank you stepper for the reply and I am sorry your son went through this.

Did he find out as to why he wasn''t interviewed with the children? I thought this was standard procedure. Can he complain about this?

Now, things like this scare me...

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