I just wanted to try and get some stuff off my chest before our hearing in a couple of days time in the hope that I can bite my tongue on the day and not get myself in trouble. The CAFCASS report bends over backwards to portray my ex as the perfect mother and me as some weak minded fool. It feels like they are saying "that''ll teach you to go to court". I have now come to realise that as a father for much of the time I am invisible or don''t exist and am an inconvenience as far as the court and all agencies involved are concerned. I have been stereotyped and patronised every step of the way. It seems a father is just an optional add on in their children''s lives, decided at the discretion of their mother. The percentage of successful order breach applications is so low as to actively discourage fathers from resorting to the court in effect giving mothers carte blanche to do as they wish irrespective of any orders in place. I had to laugh when I saw about the recently announced consultation on co-parenting. No change of law will make a jot of difference while there is such institutionalized bias and discrimination embedded in the system. So I will go to court and be a good boy, speak (if at all) when spoken to and do as I''m told in the hope that I don''t upset my ex knowing that if I do she will use her weapon of choice, the children, to get back at me. Nothing more to be said, nothing more to be done.
I can say nothing more than I understand how you must be feeling.
I am in a process myself, going to court for a contact order and expecting my first CAFCASS phone-call in the next two weeks. I am really almost scared to what will happen after reading not only yours but many other fathers'' posts on here.