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should i drop it???

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14 Sep 12 #355914 by minxy1912
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Hi, myself and my ex have been back a fourth to court since the beginning of the year now about access to the children. I have never stopped contact unless the children requested it.
He only has them from 10-1 on a Saturday.
I originally allowed my boys to stay with there dad at his new gf place,but they were constantly bullied and ignored by there new family. So the boys requested not to go.
He still constantly messes them around.
I have to self represent and he gets leagel aid.
His latest one is asking for more contact, to which i agreed, he wants to take them rnd to his gf house to which i replied i think when he only has 4 hours assess it should be one to one time.
He has said he dosnt want to walk the streets with them,which is a lie as he does have access to a car.
Any way,he got what he wanted,but no extra time. I offerd him more time to which his reply was i cant afford to feed them any more and the gf dosnt want them in the house!!!
So why make a thing about it????
My question is, can i stop the court proceedings as it is a pointless task and iam wasting my time keep turning up???
If so,how?
Thanks in advance
Minxy

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14 Sep 12 #355921 by khan72
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Some men really vex me! Make sure you get an agreement from him that the court hearing is not required and that it should be "vacated". If he does not agree, ask him what does he want? Ask for it in writing. You can then use the hearing to get the contact order varied to something you both agree to. Otherwise, just agree to vacate. Seems like u and your ex talk. Keep matters out of courts. Easier, cheaper all round.

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14 Sep 12 #355937 by minxy1912
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talk??? not realy. i ask him if he wants to see his kids,he says no.

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14 Sep 12 #355938 by rubytuesday
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Have you considered family mediation?

The Centre for Separated Parents have great advice, information and tool-kits for helping parents in similar situations to yours - www.separatedfamilies.info/

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