I have applied to the courts to help determine a fair living arrangement for my third daughter - who is now 14, she has always wanted 50/50 - and that was the informal arrangement between myself and my ex wife. However, as the divorce did not go her way she has slowly but surely eroded this down to 1 night a week to try and get me to change the path the divorce took.
As further background my ex couldnt have been more difficult in the divorce if she had tried, to the extent that judge awarded me costs against her in the final financial hearing
So I am wondering what will be covered at the first hearing (May 5th) and what sort of prep I would be advised to do? what the judge may question and look at? I am representing myself due to financial constraints.
Any thoughts, advice, examples of parenting plans, etc. would be very welcome........
Are CAFCASS involved ?
In my case out 11yo stated to CAFCASS he wanted to live with me and visit his mum weekend. This is exactly what the judge ordered.
At 14 they have significant weight.
The way I see is it this. If your daughter wants 50/50 then this is what she can demand. I mean no court can force a 14 year old to only spend 1 night a week at her dads can they? Like my 11yo, if he doesn't want to visit his mum he won't visit her. I cannot force him out to his mum and his mum can't force him out.
If everyone just stopped and thought about the child's wishes it would be so much easier for all.
My ex wife refused my offer of our 11yo living with me and visiting her right up until the first hearing. Funny here tune completed changed and actually said she agrees he should live with me !