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Cafcass safeguarding interview

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1 year 7 months ago #506429 by Cheesestring
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I'm sure both parties have to go to mediation before putting in any application as it needs to signed by miam.

Your ex is trying her luck to block contact, I don't think she will be successful considering its 50/50.

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1 year 7 months ago #506446 by MissingMySon2009
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She went to mediation without me, got her MIAMS signed, and submitted the following day.

When I say without me, we were agreeing which mediator to use and I found out she had gone ahead with someone.

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1 year 7 months ago #506447 by Cheesestring
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That's exactly what happened to me. Ex went to miam and got it signed and sent of court papers. I only realised what he done when the court papers dropped through my letterbox.
Ex knows I would have done mediation and avoided courts due to costs and stress.

As frustrating as it is the court case proceeded even though I told courts what had happened. They didn't seem to care, as long as miam signed it and mediation and court fees were paid.

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1 year 7 months ago #506448 by MissingMySon2009
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I'm sorry that happened to you.

I've been through this before in the original court case. And you're right, the court did not care about whether attempt at mediation was genuine. I think they see a lot of it and get desensitized.

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1 year 7 months ago #506450 by Cheesestring
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When is your next court hearing?

Definitely put detail and information in your position statement about how you had 50/50 for x number of years. Judge will see that and use his/her common sense and not change it to no contact.

At the first hearing the contact usually stays the same as previously until the next hearing. Make sure you keep going back to court to increase contact until its something you're happy with and works for you and your son.

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1 year 7 months ago #506453 by MissingMySon2009
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First court hearing is next month.

I applied for enforcement. She has responded with an application that son not see me at all. Applications merged.

Although we have 50-50, there is almost no contact over the last month.

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