I had a DRA hearing and the judge seemed to ignore all my evidence of the respondent's documented lies, my long timeline of abuse (emotional, verbal, coercive control, manipulation of a child) logged with Domestic abuse agencies, social services concerns (suggesting carefully managed reintroduction of contact). My suggestions for progressive contact for our child were ignored and the father's were taken up exactly as written.
Contact is far too aggressive and in two months involves x 3 overnights for my child with my ex, who has never looked after him for more than five hours at a time and is positively negligent.
They all say 'get out and safe' but we have to send our children back alone!
The judge declared his order based on only documented contact centre sessions 4 x 2hours (easy for my ex to act the part there)
My legal council didn't explain what was going on and asked me not to speak up - he would handle it - but he didn't at all, just agreed with the judge! What the hell happened?
The order I have received only says ORDER not FINAL order and is a draft so not logged with the court yet? Can I challenge this before it is logged? I feel so sick that none of this was child focussed and my child will be in danger.
You will have the opportunity to present your case in more detail in the next hearing. I would advise that you prepare a chronology, a position statement and a proposal of child child arrangements for this hearing. Did you complete a C1A before the FHDRA?
The order you have received is most likley an interim order - it is usual for one to be made at this stage, it doesn't mean that what is in this order will be the arrangements set out in the final order.
There is no 'next hearing'! I just don't know what it was, the draft from my solicitor merely says ORDER but do I get an official court stamped order too?
The Judge voiced that he didn't want to see us two (ex and myself) in court again and we should learn to put our personal issues aside. This was triggering to say the least - like listening to my ex minimising his abuse all over again. I could accept that the abuse of me will never be validated legally (I know the truth and that's all that matters), but for all that evidence to be ignored about my concerns for our child - that's dangerous. My legal councel did not have me back and is just shrugging shoulders now. He didn't put forward my requests about the CAO and i'm not sure that this ORDER is not the total CAO (with nothing much on it except contact dates). I want to write to the judge. Is this even possible?