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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

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22 Aug 12 #351236 by eyes on horizon
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I suggest when he has his next court date he proposes a calendar and gets it included with the acutal contact order. dont allow the courts to discharge either. He needs to state to the judge that there appears to be finanical motivation behind the contact hindrance as well. That way hopefully he will get a rigid order. It sounds like you guys are about 18 months behind the EXACT situation I went through..luckily my ex grew bored and got caught out in her own lying so is much more agreeable now as she doenst want to lose face in front of anyone...(thats why i always say, get a separate mobile and save ALL the texts and emails from the ex) makes it much harder for them to agrue about who said what when its black and white in front of them.
Best thing I EVER did, and when i confronted the ex about what she ACTUALLY said about certain events re contact etc and told her exactly how i had the evidence...shes been much more agreeable to most suggestions now! :laugh:

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23 Aug 12 #351309 by C. J.
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My fiance was seriously considering mentioning this to the judge at the hearing next month but we have heard that bringing up child maintenance in court hearings is frowned upon and may not look good on my fiance if he brings money into it.

What do people think?

The problem is that we believe that 70% of the problems that my fiance experiences in relation to contact is due to the ex being financially motived. She endlessly tries to campaign that my fiance should have contact to suit her i.e. when she wants to save herself money on after school club or childcare etc. Thankfully at the last hearing the judge agreed with my fiance that contact every other weekend was more of a stable routine for the children.

This doesn''t stop her trying though...

Overnight stays originally started at the end of 2010 but the ex has always found reasons to stop it and consequently they have never ended up going over the 52 night bracket.

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