I am going through a divorce I have 2 children 1 of 5 and 1 of 10 I know that I have my responsibilities and I am not trying to shy away from them. My wife wants to pay me 30% and out of that I need to get a house. I am 47 and if I can get a mortgage and because of my age the mortgage will be over 17 years. to get somewhat decent place the monthly repayments will be about £1500 on top of that the wife wants 20% of my earnings for child maintenance which equated to about £700 per month. So, with mortgage and maintenance I will have to pay about £2200 on top of that I will have my council tax, utilities, food etc etc. how can i survive I have to life I feel that £700 is a bit steep considering that my salary is between 45-48k per year.
I am not doubting that amount for child maintenance but then how am i supposed to survive in life. I am not the one who has instigated this divorce so why should i suffer. Of course I will make sure that the kids are not affected in any way
I get 10% if my stbxh''s wages as he has a child elsewhere who also gets 10%. This equates to £30.50 a week. I am a full time student who was being supported through uni by my stbxh who paid all the bills. He works a part time cash in hand job which the csa cant and wont take into account. The cm i get doesnt even cover food for my child let alone rent, gas, electric, school expenses etc etc etc.
I think for you to begrudge £700 a month isnt very fair when you were probably paying 100% of your wages into your family prior to the split. Your children didnt ask for the split either and they shouldnt have to suffer. Theres nothing worse than telling your child they cant have something when they thoroughly deserve it because your ex doesnt take on enough of his responsibilities.