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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


CSA and voluntary "extras"

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04 Sep 12 #353826 by retep69
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I currently pay my stbx £470 per month in child maintenance for my 3 children.
This is based on them staying with me 5 nights in 14.

Based on the CSA calculator, they sugget £430 so I`m paying £40 over the suggested amount.

On top of this I pay a voluntary amount to cover school related expenditure such as school trips and school clubs which equates to around £70 a month.

Given that once I pay the CSA rates we are on parity in terms of disposable income,does this sound fair?

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04 Sep 12 #353828 by Felixstowe
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Sounds very fair to me :)

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05 Sep 12 #353973 by retep69
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I hope so,the extra was based on achieving a degree of parity between each of our disposable incomes at the time of separation and to allow the children to cntinue after school clubs and trips.

STBX says it should include provision of school dinners but I think they should be covered under the csa maintenacne element of what I pay.

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05 Sep 12 #353982 by jslgb
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I think its admirable that you pay above and beyond what the CSA recommend as well as contributing to the childrens after school activities.

I do not agree that you should have to pay extra for school dinners. If your stbx made the decision to place your children on school dinners then she should cover the cost.

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05 Sep 12 #353984 by WYSPECIAL
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How much does it equate to and is it worth rocking the boat for? Do you use the CSA?

I would use it as a means to ditch the CSA and get them out of your life.

Two choice- the CSA amount via the CSA or an agreed amount to allow for extras agreed as child maintenance and acknowledged as such by both parents.

Bear in mind you can never pay enough. If you roll over on this on this one will it be half of school uniforms next?

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05 Sep 12 #353986 by retep69
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I already pay towards school shoes.....:dry:

I should have stated I use the CSA calculator but pay my stbx the amount directly not through them.

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05 Sep 12 #353989 by WYSPECIAL
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retep69 wrote:

I already pay towards school shoes.....:dry:

I should have stated I use the CSA calculator but pay my stbx the amount directly not through them.


Well make sure the payment is clearly identifiable as child maintenance!

You''re already paying over the odds. Only you can decide how much you are prepared to pay but by posting on here you must already think it is enough.

Ask your self how much are you able and willing to pay and when will the requests for more stop?

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