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09 Jan 08 #10312 by Sgutt
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My ex has now told me that they are moving away from the area and that she plans to take my son (aged 5)out of school and into a new school where they will re-locate to (approx 20 miles away)

After all the upset that he has gone through, losing his Dad and his home he is now expected to move school, with all the problems for children when they enter a new school.

I for one think its a disgrace but as usual I presume there is nothing I can do about it. My son already told his mum that he wants to live with Dad and move school to where his Dad lives, and be in the same class as his cousin (born within a couple of months of each other) and his older cousin. But alas no, he's not old enough to have a say.

I ask the question, is he old enough to be unhappy? and to be treated like this. The system is wrong.

He never wanted this, I never wanted this either but as usual OUR feelings dont matter.

Disgusted.

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09 Jan 08 #10322 by IKNOWNOW
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This must be so hard for you. I take it he is either in Reception or Year 1. So he has effectively just settled at school and made friends. I know sometimes moving schools cannot be helped but I have always said that even if I end up selling the house because I can't afford it; I would do my utmost to keep them in the same schools. My little boy is also 5 and I know what an upheavel that would cause him. He sees school as his sanctuary, his one constant in this very unstable life he leads at the moment. Knowing a little of your situation I would be asking questions as to whether the move is in your son's best interests.

I guess if the move is for financial reasons then your x maybe able to get away with it. With PR you do get a say in where your children are educated and major decisions in their lives.

I would not just let it happen, I would be asking questions about why she feels the need.

I hope that you get some answers and like I have said in previous posts; maybe worth getting some legal advise from the Children's Legal Centre. Will add this information later.

Take care, regards

Sarah

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10 Jan 08 #10362 by Sgutt
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Hi Sarah
My son is in Year 1. Having spoken to her at length about the situation she knows exactly how I feel but is that either arrogant or ignorant to realise the implications it will have on him. There seems to be some 'hidden agenda' as to why she all of a sudden wants to move from the area we have lived and settled in for the last 4 years - maybe the last 9 months have caught up with her?
Anyway the reasons given are as follows
1) The house is not big enough
2) The school is not good enough and has too many 'rough' kids
3) She wants a fresh start with the new bloke
So she thinks moving away into a new home will make the kids happy again and actually want to live with her. Her attitude towards shouting at them constantly (and other things) will stop immediately and they will live 'happily ever after'
Yes, she has always been cuckoo, just a shame that I have to pick up the pieces constantly

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10 Jan 08 #10369 by IKNOWNOW
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hi,

seems strange that the school is no longer good enough, but was ok when you were together. I really wish that more people actually thought about the effect their decisions will have on the lives of the children that should be the most precious things in their lives always and forever.

Sorry it really makes my blood boil to think that decisions are made because of the new partner, who has been on the scene such a short while. She is expecting your children to not only get used to another bloke but another house, new school, new friends.

You have PR too, surely you can do something! I really do feel for you. I know I am probably making you feel worse about this whole thing, seems as if your hands are tied.

Keep pushing forward.

Regards, Sarah x

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