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Failed Contact report to police (DV)

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13 Jan 08 #10583 by smalik
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I went to the police station to report DV and the police would not take a report.

Bit of back ground, my x2b was not happy that i have collected information of her cohabiting over the last 6 months, I have presented this evidence to her sol and will be filing it for my FH(ancilary releif) at the end of the month, she is now livid that she will get less in her settlement.

She has this week made a allegation to the police of harassment, the allegation that the police have taken in so vauge and does not give any time date of the harassments.
Mind you the police wanted to warn me for these allgeations and refused to accept there warning,i asked them to arrest me and charge me if they had evedence, the refused to take the matter further.

I then received a letter from x2b sol that she was scared that i would assulat her and that she would not bring my daughter for contact.

I went to my contact session as per the court to collect my daughter and my x2b did not bring her.

I then went to the local police station to report it this as DV, The DV legislation is so varied that emotional abuse is also listed and that can mean anything like deprive or to bring pain knowingly.

After 20 minutes of discussion with the police officer, the police officer would not write a report.

Is not bring a child to contact emotional abuse ?
I think all NRP should report this as DV under emotional abuse.

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13 Jan 08 #10585 by attilladahun
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I went to my contact session as per the court to collect my daughter and my x2b did not bring her.

Wrong action -

You should seek a defined contact order which can be enforced if Mother fails to comply

Presumably the financials will be over soon if you are past 1st Appointment and the FDR looms.

It doesn't seem that the principle of contact is in issue merely implementation.
Insist on an order as she appears to stop contact unilateraly

If she raises the issue of percieved abduction she won't get far as she will herself not have issuesd an application and anyway there is no evidence.

If she messes about in contact proceedings and finances are not finalised its amazing how the relationship will ultimately come out..

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13 Jan 08 #10586 by smalik
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I went the police station on principle of legal definetation of Domestic violenec( also emotional abuse is also defined as DV), If a women went the police station to make a report, that she was suffering emotional abuse and it could be anything they would have taken a report, i think like wise they should do the same when women fails bring child for contact.

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13 Jan 08 #10598 by topaz
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I cannot in any way see how you can call YOUR X not turning up to a meeting...emotional abuse OR domestic violence.Many of us have experience of the two and I can assure you, her not turning up with the child is neither.IT IS ANNOYING,VEXING, IRRITATING,PUSHING THE BOUNDARIES BUT NOT ABUSE.!I can see why the police did not make a report.
it is interesting that you are attempting to accuse her of the exact behaviour as she has accused you of.

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13 Jan 08 #10604 by sexysadie
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I agree with Topaz. It is wrong of your ex not to bring your daughter to contact at the agreed time, but it is not emotional abuse and it's inappropriate to report it as such. Follow Attilla's informed advice and don't waste your time making accusations that will not be taken seriously by the police or the court.

Sadie

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13 Jan 08 #10610 by smalik
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I did not write the law,

Definition of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a general term to describe a range of behaviour often used by one person to control and dominate another with whom they have, or have had, a close or family relationship and in which the abuser operates from a position of perceived power.

For the purposes of prosecuting offences, The CPS definition of domestic violence is

Any criminal offence arising out of physical, sexual, psychological, emotional or financial abuse by one person against a current or former partner in a close relationship, or against a current or former family member.

This definition includes all forms of violent and controlling behaviour and includes familial elder abuse, sibling abuse, parent abuse and in-law abuse, regardless of gender or age of either the victim or defendant.


When my x2b failed to meet me at the agreed date and time not fall under "position of perceived power" emotional abuse.

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14 Jan 08 #10611 by Fiona
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I'm sorry you are having problems but contact is a civil matter not a criminal offence. The important bit in the definition you give is "range of behaviour." DV isn't a one off incident, rather a pattern of repeat victimisation.

As attilla said there are right ways to go about things.

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