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What happens after supervised contact??

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17 Jan 08 #10954 by barrys74
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Hi Everyone

I am in the middle of a very bitter nasty hurtful divorce, part of it is what contact I have with my son. I have spent about £7k and for that I have manged to win 60 mins once a week in a supervised contact center, for a total of 10 sessions.

These sessions are goiing as well as can be expected when you put Father and son (2.5 years old) into a room filled with unfamiliar toys, in a strange house with a stranger watching your every move and interfering with your time when they get a bit bored. At the end of the sessions I get feedback and he has nothing but good things to say about the contact time.

What should I, realistically ask for in terms of contact with my son from now on. CAFCASS are doing a report for court and I am due in court again in February. If it is going to cost another £7k for another 60 mins then I am inclined to say forget it!!

If they get me to jump through anymore hoops or put anymore hurdles in my way, I am pretty sure I am going to chuck in the towel and hope that my son will want to see me later as he grows up.

Is there anyone else in or been in a simialr position?

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17 Jan 08 #10997 by IKNOWNOW
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Sorry, but you don't say why you have to see your son at the Contact Centre. A bit of background would be helpful. I have just offered my x2b contact through a Contact Centre to see his 5 children, but he has declined. I won't go into details now but he has declined and says he does not wish to have direct contact at the present time saying it ijust isn't practicable.

Maybe if you give a little more information then others maybe able to advise better as you currently have not really given enough background.

Regards,

Sarah

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18 Jan 08 #11062 by Fiona
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It must be difficult, but I would try to be patient and hang on in there. If contact is going well the next step would be to gradually increase it and possibly for it to be unsupervised. For developmental reasons it's generally thought best for very young children not to be apart from their main carer too long so contact tends to be for frequent, short periods. One thing you need to think about is how collecting and dropping off your son can be managed when supervised contact stops.

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