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22 Jan 08 #11422 by marky1701
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Hi All,
During the course of my divorce - the absolute is due anytime, my wife left the family home to go on holiday with an old friend in Greece. It relationship obviously has developed, and she announced that she was leaving my 11 yr old son & 18 yr old daughter with me in the former mat. home. She recently visited me during a short trip to the uk & asked if my son could go to Greece for a holiday - I immediately said no. Am I in my rights to do this? I am worried about him being kept there plus my wifes partner is a "recovering alcoholic" - I do not want him around in this situation - any help or advice would be great

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22 Jan 08 #11442 by Specialdad
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The likely hood is that she will take the matter to court in order to obtain a contact order if you do not agree to reasonable access and terms.

Let him go on hol with her as she is still his mother.

Dont use children in any personal battle. Your relationship with the children will suffer.

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22 Jan 08 #11457 by Fiona
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Unless there is a residency order in place parents don't need permission to take their children abroad for a short holiday. There are international agreements in place covering Greece for the return of abducted children and there are cautionary measures you can put in place.


www.reunite.org/page.php?alias=capg00

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22 Jan 08 #11475 by loobyloo
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My x2b who has nothing now to do with kids took them to his family in aug to hong kong(last time he saw them) of course was on edge whole 2 weeks and they hated it
But even now if he asked to take them away i would leave the decision to the kids and thats all you can do
The thing is if you know where she is going you will be able tofind her if, and i doubt she would, she kept him there
good luck...i know how you feel believe you me
looby

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23 Jan 08 #11538 by marky1701
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Thanks to all who replied.
Your point about not using the kids in a personal battle is entirely right - I am genuinely thinking of my Son and how he might cope in that situation - lots of strange faces, strange situations but I will take onboard that ultimatley I need to talk to him, see how he feels and let him decide. Just one last thing - if he decides that he really does not want to go, can my ex force him?

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23 Jan 08 #11539 by marky1701
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Thanks to all who replied.
Your point about not using the kids in a personal battle is entirely right - I am genuinely thinking of my Son and how he might cope in that situation - lots of strange faces, strange situations but I will take onboard that ultimatley I need to talk to him, see how he feels and let him decide. Just one last thing - if he decides that he really does not want to go, can my ex force him?

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