My ex agreed to pay maintanence of £400 a month when we first split. This dropped to £300. Then when he had them for a week at half term, he knocked off £75 without telling me. In the end I had to go thru the CSA to make sure that I knew what I was going to receive each month without getting any nasty surprises!
Be aware that he might try this.
My ex owes thousands in arrears,he has argued the fact whilst he was on holiday (the kids were not with him) for 3 weeks he was not working so how could the CSA deduct the same amount from him, If i was in a private arrangement with my ex i would'nt have any money from him for the children whilst he was on holiday with them infact i would tell him to spend the money on the kids as extra spending money.
Thats funny that you are both saying that if you hadn't gone through CSA, you wouldnt get your money as its something i am thinking about doing.
Every month, i have to ask him for the maintanence and if i dont send him a text reminding him then he doesnt pay it in.(this has been going on for 2 years now)
I have asked him to set up a dd at the bank but he wont do this and also i have absolutely NO idea how much he is on.
If we ever argue, he tells me he is going to reduce my payments/ not pay me.
I wonder if its the best way to go as we are fairly amicable and i dont want it to rock the boat but im getting fed up with the will he pay maintance/wont he pay manitance every month.
At least if you go thru the CSA, you'll find out how much he's on as he'll have to provide his last three wage slips to them. However, they only take 15% of his net pay for one child and 20% for two. Then if he has them for more than 52 nights a year, they'll deduct 1/7th off for each child. More than 104 nights a year, 2/7ths and so on. It's called "shared care." Depending on what you get at the mo, you might be better/worse off.
Personally I would just be grateful that he was taking the children to Florida and spending a fortnight with them rather than arguing over 2 weeks child maintenance which could cause future problems for you.