What should I do?

I'm not sure what I should do about this situation. I am waiting for the Decree Absolute so just about officially divorced. I have a son 13yo who makes his own arrangements to see his Dad. This has arisen as the dad refuses to communicate in anyway with me about the children. On occassion I have written to him regarding them (schooling and contact) and sent these letters recorded delivery(there have been two sent in 2yrs), but they have never been acknowledged and no answers given to the questions asked. As you can imagine this is very difficult especially when I know he needs to be informed of matters relating to his children and I am going on holiday with son in a couple of weeks, I am reluctant to send a letter. I'm very unhappy about son making own arrangements with dad as son has apergers syndrome and sees things in a very black/white way. I have also sent numerous solicitors letters re contact as I do want dad in their lives. However he has ignored all requests for his proposals to see son and like I have said contact is initiated and arranged by my son. The dad has never initiated phone calls or contact with son. Is there anything I can do? By the way my other son lives with dad and gf.

Hi,
Just an idea, no expert myself. Does your 13 yr. old son attend a special school? Could the school send out two letters on anything relating to schooling? This may get him to response.

Thanks dragonfly,

No son is in mainstream school. School can send stuff but dad won't even contact school re son! And he sometimes arranges to pick up son from there. The dad appears to be really paranoid.

Unfortunately, it is up to him to be the parent he wishes to be. All you can do is be supportive of your son, which you so obviously are, so he will have at least one very loving and excellent parent in you.

Shelia

Hi Pinkfish,
So sorry that he wont response. It will be his lost. Children always remember the things you don't do.

Sheila and Dragonfly

Thank you both for your thoughts. I will continue to do what I can for my son and other children. Got my absolute yesterday.

Hi Pinkfish,
How are you today? You sound like a very caring mother and good things will come your way. Good luck, chin up and god bless.