can she set contact

thanks dragonfly,

my son wants to see his mum but not the new partner, she has been telling him how she will treat him to this that and the other, although he has seen though this as he asked her where the money would come from. he does not want to see her new partner because he heard her telling me her new partner was smoking spliffs, she also told him that he is a alcholic and had been drinking since he was about 4years old. her daughter and mother have also said he is violent and is threatening to come and beat me up. when my solicitor raised these points with hers she has stated none of it is true and i'm poisoning our sons mind, when our son said he heard it all for himself she called him a lier. i'm not sure if she really does want to see him or has some hidden agenda as when she comes to the house she shows him no attension but instead is either telling me she is entitled to this or that as her sol has told her or she is begging me to take back as she has made a mistake leaving me.

the worst of it is for her contact she intends to upset our sons pastimes, she knows when he does is activies and is demanding to see him at them times and will not budge to other times when he is free. she is also demanding that i have to take him to her, and i should then have to drop all three of them off if their decide to go out as i drive and they do not, when i've said no to this she has accused me of been nasty and says no wonder she had to leave me.

my x2b has put in the divorce petition before me on grounds of UB, to stop me using adultry if i put it in first.
On the arrangemenst for children form she has stated all the arrangements for our son as there stand at the moment, that he lives with me and my parents look after him for me if i'm at work and he's on school hols. the only false bit is her visits she says she sees him at the marital home once or twice a week but is not happy as i say nasty things to her, when the truth is she gets in touch to see him when she can be bothered and doesn't always turn up, also she pays no attesion to our son but dives straight into demanding this that and other off me as soon as she steps through the door. The contact she is asking for is saturdays from 10 till 6 and monday wednesday and friday 12 till 4 in the summer hols.Our son says he will go with her but only if he does not have to meet her new bloke and if she makes him meet new bloke as she is insisting then he will not go again. Could anyone tell me if the conditions our son has put forward will be allowed or will he be overruled and forced by the courts to go with her regardless of his feelings.

Thanks markp