can she set contact

It sounds like she wants it to look good on paper. Has she plucked these times out of the air or does she not think your son has a life. My eldest is 10 and he also does Saturday football and I can't see him wanting to miss that to see his dad! I think they have different perceptions to adults as to what is better. My x2b can't afford to keep buying them (5 Children) things but does it anyway to make me look bad as I can't afford it and also because he is not able to communicate and interact with them for any amount of time, he doesn't try.

I believe people make their own situations; my x2b wants staying contact with my eldest 2; boy 10 & girl 9 but shares a 2 bed house with a sofa bed in the only living room & wants the children to share a bed - cause that is normal?

The courts look at what is in the best interest of the child as the main concern, not what the parent wants. I would suggest that you find some sort of advocacy service or speak to your son's school who might know of some contacts so that your son can discuss his feelings regards the matter of contact.

I have issues regards contact & if mediation doesn't work I will be sure to get counselling or similar for my eldest if the divorce drags on.

Sorry I have waffled. Your top priority is your son and I would ask for advise - you could try oneparentfamilies.org.uk or the children's legal service for advice.

Hope your son gets what he needs out of the experience!

my x2b has now said that she is going for custody after walking out on him 4/5 months ago she also admits in a letter from her sol that she has made arrangements to see him and not turned up without letting him know and she understands this upsets him also she is living in a 1 bed flat with new partner that our son does not want any contact with due to the things she has said aswell as his big sister and his grandma. Also he does not want to live with her only see her from time to time as he remembers what she was like with him before she left

i've made no comment on the contact conditions she was wanting, the only person that has said anything was our son when she spoke to him, he tried to set his own terms for her contact but she would not listen to him and told him he had to do what she said or else so he told her he only wants her to come to the house from now on and if she tries to take him out he will not go with her.

Mark your ex swapped dicks 4 months ago, she deemed this more important than her 10 year old son. Her behaviour is unacceptable. If roles were reversed you wouldn't have a hope in hell of having similar contact.

Children need a good mother & a good father, she deserted her son, she's not a good mother.
I'm sure your solicitor will agree that her requests are not in the best interests of your lad.

And make sure you look after him saturdays, sports activities for children are very important & it gives you the chance to get out & meet other parents.