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When do we stop paying child maintenance?

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20 Mar 12 #319227 by hercfreak
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We only see her every other month or so and she stays at my in laws rather than ours (we''ve only been together 4 years and got our own house 2 years ago)she never phones my husband and he only really phones when he needs to know something or birthdays etc

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20 Mar 12 #319229 by Fiona
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When there is a private agreement as opposed to a child maintenance included in a court order settling the finances on divorce, the parent with the majority of care may apply to the CSA for child support.

Under CSA rules children are eligible for child support until they reach the age of 19 (rising to 20 in the near future) if they are continuing in full time education or training.

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20 Mar 12 #319230 by hercfreak
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Her course is only 3 days a week the rest of the time she does sit on her backside at home watching tv. She''s admitted to that on the odd occaision we see her. She doesn''t get up til gone midday either.

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20 Mar 12 #319232 by Deedum
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If she was my daughter I would be encouraging her to get a job in a salon on her days off just washing hair and sweeping up, etc, as a junior to get her foot in the door for a permanaent job when she''s qualified.

Does she have much encouragement at home to do this sort of thing?

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20 Mar 12 #319234 by WhiteRose
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CM is paid to her Mum?

Surely this goes towards food, laundry, heating, lighting etc for when she''s home?

If you choose to stop the payments, a decent amount of notice to them both would be recommended - this allows changes in budget to be made.

Stopping her money to teach your step daughter a lesson may cause animosity, maybe a quiet father to daughter chat would steer her in the right direction.

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20 Mar 12 #319236 by hercfreak
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I have no idea, I''ve never met her mother. But wat I know about her, she didn''t register my husband on the birth certificate to be classed as a single parent. So I''m not holding my breath.
I''ve tried saying to my husband about it, but he won''t really listen says she''s trying. In my opinion if she was trying she''d be up in the morning trawlling all sallons trying to find something. I left home at 16 and joined the RAF as I was taught to fend for myself. In teh year that I had between leaving school and joining up I got a course at college and got myself a Saturday job to put money aside to help buy all my kit that I needed for training.

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20 Mar 12 #319238 by WhiteRose
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I also joined the RAF at 16 as a YTS - it was around £20.00 pw I got back then.

However if its your husband paying CM and he still wishes to continue paying - its his business.

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