L4N - you and my ex are poles apart (lol excuse the pun!) whereas you''ve never try to avoid your obligations of helping to bring up your children financially, my ex has tried every trick in the book to get out of it. I feel so sorry for our kids that their dad doesnt think enough of them to pay proper maintenance when he clearly can afford to.
I pity his new wife to be enormously and the fact that she''ll probably find herself in the same situation as me in a few years time! But thats not my problem.
I''ve never stopped him seeing his kids because he doesnt pay maintenance for them, hell its taken me ages to get him to have them on a regular basis and yet he would prefer to drag me through the courts shouting his rights as a father while not actually being able to act like one when it matters.
I hope your situation improves L4N, you sound like a reasonable guy. I could not imagine having £1100 per month maintenance - £20 has been my maximum when he was on the dole!!