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Maintenance options?

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07 Jun 12 #335478 by dippydappy
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Could someone please help me with a quick question.

Do I have to pay child maintenance in cash or can I somehow give the money in a way that would stipulate the way it''s used, ie for clothes, food, milk etc?

So that I know the money is going towards the children''s up keep.

Thanks.

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07 Jun 12 #335481 by sexysadie
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You have to pay child maintenance as money and can''t stipulate how it is used.

Don''t forget that it has to contribute to other things for the children, such as rent/mortgage, utility bills, etc.

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Sadie

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07 Jun 12 #335482 by Fiona
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The best way to pay CM is by direct debit or standing order with a reference to indicate it is for child maintenance. Then you have a record.

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07 Jun 12 #335483 by dippydappy
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Thank you Sadie.

For the past year I have been paying the rent and council tax on the flat they live in which is just over three times the amount I am due to pay. The flat is in my name and it was just easier to have this arrangement. My ex is now moving to a huge (albeit lovely and brilliant for the kids) house of which the rent is 4 times as much. He is expecting me to keep up the same payments which I have always said I can''t do because it is crippling me financially.

I want to reduce the amount I pay to the actual amount due as then I would be able to afford to treat my kids when they are with me and I can then buy them clothes and stuff, maybe even take them on holidays.

He says he can''t afford to live in the new house because of increased rent and expenses, he hasn''t worked out what he can afford and has jumped in with two feet.

I want to continue amicably as it has been but I can not afford this anymore. I can''t pay my own bills and rent.

He gets to take them here, there and everywhere. When I have them we have to go to the park as I can''t afford trips out.

Am I being unreasonable?

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07 Jun 12 #335484 by Fiona
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Your not being unreasonable but child maintenance is a statutory obligation so any economy to be made would need to come from the amount you pay over and above that.

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