Hi there,
I was in a the same position as yourself when I first seperated although not to begin with.
Partner had affair with family friend and she not allowed contact with the girls, things esculated and due to him wanting money from my biz he became verbally abusive in front of girls his partner became very violent and injunctions served. Contact stopped and he fought for money for a year before going for the ds, Out come he has 1 d every two weeks for 3 hrs and the older refuses to go CAFCASS and
mediation both seen the fear in her and have not recommended it. No contact with his partner no contact at their propery all because they could not move on with their lives.
My advice would be keep record, dont put words into her mouth or ideas into her head, have a witness with you when contact is to take place and if he does become nasty in front of her, Get your witness to remove her from the situation and call the police if it becomes threating.No child should witness unreasonable or abusive behaviour from either NRP or PWC.
Good luck and keep those notes