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Contact order , court date set , what to expect?

  • robdf2
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26 Sep 07 #3976 by robdf2
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Hi All ,
As title says i have applied for a contact oder to see my 2 little girls and now have the court date of October 2nd.

My wife wont give me regular contact with my children , infact i have just had them this weekend , thats first time in 9 weeks ! (probably cause we in court next week)

My girls are 5 and 9 , when my youngest 1 comes to stay she doesnt want want to go home and clings to my neck for dear life and tells her mum face to face that she wants to stay with me and not go home with her , its so heart breaking to see and hear your own children saying these things.
We have just had our final hearing for divorce which i had to represent myself cause im broke , so will be representing myself again.

All i know is we there will be a 45 hearing which will then be adjourned and we will have to fill in a questionaire with council , obviously that will just be me.
What else can i expect or has anyone had a similar experience ? any hep would be much appreciated.


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26 Sep 07 #3981 by chunks
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I have just had something similar with my boys being 9 and 6. The cafcass officer studied the case and then gave her findings to the judge. She set out a routine for the next 10 weeks for the children and then the judge gave my ex a good roasting for using the children in petty arguments.
To summarise i now see the boys 4 days a week and they are totally happy with the new routine.

Dont be afraid - just tell the truth and it will be ok

Good luck

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27 Sep 07 #4060 by madaboutcars
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I also had a problem with my x trying to stop me seeing my 3 year old daughter. A CAFCASS officer visits you and will also visit your x and likes to see the children around you. She will put foward to the judge what she feels is right for the children and not whats best for the parents. I live a mile away from my x and she was only letting me see my Daughter for 1 day every other weekend. The court decided (after they received the CAFCASS report)that I should see her mid week (mon & wed for a hour each time) and every other weekend overnight. They very much believe in the child seeing as much of the absent parent as possible. The CAFCASS officer told me that little and often is what she recommends in all children cases. Hope this helps.
P.S. When I originally went to Court, I didnt have a solicitor either and just a word of warning, before going into Court, My x's solicitor tried to get me to agree to a load of rubbish and I would even say tried to bully me. Not a nice experience, so please beware!

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