This is always a difficult question to answer, i will give you a few pointers - but you know your own kids better than anyone - so trust your instinct.
Key messages to get across are:
Separation is quite normal:
- that you and your ex are going to live separately, but you are still a family.
- that it is not uncommon for mums and dads to move on to a different stage in their lives.
- partners don't always live together forever.
- that many, many of the other kids at school have separated parents
You still both love them
- that you are still a family
- you still both love them very much
- that none of this is their fault
That not too much has to change:
- they can still see you both
- they can still see both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles etc
- their life can carry on as normal.
A couple of messages for you:
- maintain their relationship with you both
- contact with both parents is critical
- keep them out of any arguments
- don't let them hear you talking badly about your ex to a friend who dropped by
Here is a website that might help: www.itsnotyourfault.org/
Post edited by: admin, at: 2007/04/10 13:58