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21 Nov 07 #7208 by Mrs Ingledew
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My ex has signed a child statement that he will have the children on Thursdays and alternative weekends. This was put forward in July when I petitioned buy he didn't sign until the end of September. (FYI I am petitioning under adultery)Since the end ofAugust when I decided it was not longer sustainable for him to see then children at the matrimonial home he has seen our daughter(7)and son (14) twice.
He didn't even call them on their birthdays.
I don't know what to do. My solicitor has written to his and asked for the access to be resumed correctly.
I cannnot contact him as he doesn't want to speak or hear from me at all.

any advice or similar experience?

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21 Nov 07 #7217 by Fiona
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Short answer is unfortunately, no, parents can't be forced to see their children.

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21 Nov 07 #7232 by Specialdad
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Sounds like a clear case of egotism.

It is always a shame that the children are stuck in the middle and suffer. They grow up resenting the fact that dad isnt around and then society picks up the pieces.

I think I might make it my mission to tell fellow men not to marry and not to have any children!!!

B)

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21 Nov 07 #7239 by Fiona
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After some sadness most children readjust and are just fine though. Poverty, parental conflict and multiple changes in family structure are the factors most influential in poor outcomes for children of divorced parents.

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21 Nov 07 #7244 by Specialdad
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Funny that. Poverty, parental conflict and multiple family changes are to with Divorce arent they? or did I miss something?????

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21 Nov 07 #7301 by sexysadie
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Well, yes and no.

Poverty can also happen in intact families.

Multiple family changes could mean one parent constantly coming and going.

There is certainly research evidence to suggest that what is really bad for children is living with two parents who are constantly fighting and clearly unhappy together. The evidence suggests that, once things are settled, divorce itself has less effect. Doesn't feel like that at the moment, though.

Sadie

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22 Nov 07 #7309 by Angel557
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I know my children are better off with me and their father apart, In the 28 months we have been seperated i have let dad back into their lives 3 times , the longest absent being 16 months.This has got to be the last time as it is having a really bad effect on my children espeically my daughter, I have a child that seems to right now have a fear if i leave her on her own ie she will not go upstairs on her own as she thinks i'm going to leave her something i would never do.I have heard her talk to her friends and say things about her father their her feelings and not anything i have said to her, i feel gutted for my children that thier own father could treat them no better than a dis used cleaning rag, and i for 1 am getting tired of having to mop up their tears caused by a selfish adult.Our children should come first in divorce no matter what.

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