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29 Nov 07 #8078 by moonstar04
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This has got me thinking:

How many of us have the children, ie how many mums/dads have kept the children or lost the children.

I ask because I am sure I am going to go down the residency order issue with my ex shortly and just wondered what the stastisics were for this forum alone?

Could we have a poll?

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29 Nov 07 #8082 by Pickle
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Define 'Kept' and 'Lost'

I assume you mean in residency/access terms.

My mother had residency of my brother and I, but 'lost' us throught the lies she told about our father (we found out as we grew up)

My father didn't get to see us at all for the first few years, but as we became teenages and discovered the lies, he managed to 'keep' us by being open and honest with us.

Now as adults my mother never sees her grandchildren yet I am constantly in touch with my father.

Probably why my x and I were so open and honest with our son.

Quick edit: I have residency, but my x gets to see our son pretty much whenever he wants. We also alternate Christmas and his birthday.

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29 Nov 07 #8083 by mike62
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In my case, we have an allegedly consensual shared care arrangement for our 3 children - B15, G12, B8 - She Sun - Thur, me Fri - Sat. Nothing formalised, as not petitioned yet.
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29 Nov 07 #8092 by loobyloo
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To All the DADs who care And All The MUMS who,s x,s dont care
not from the want of trying to force contact my x2b never gets in contact with kids has not seen them since aug... god hes only supposed to see them 1 night a month and cant even do that let alone phone them daily.
He knows i bought kids mobiles and has numbers so he neednt speak to me, me not excuse , they are 8 and 10
So mine now have been told the truth as sick of lying to protect them and save his face
I marched them into his surgery and asked him to tell kids why he ignores them... did he... no never got of his fat backside just kept on at his comp.... so not all mothers of absent fathers are lying to keep dads away
This is a very sore topic for me..... yes i moved 113 miles away but he has car phone and plenty of disposable income so what should i do ... cant do any more
looby

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29 Nov 07 #8093 by loobyloo
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P.S.
I SALUTE ALL YOU FAB DADS OUT THERE AND GREAT MUMS WHO THROUGH DECEPTION HAVE NOT GOT RESIDENCY

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29 Nov 07 #8098 by Camberwick green
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I have residency but my X see’s them every weekend and holidays usually.

I have been straight with my kids about their Father and it is sometimes hard no to say too much through anger or bitterness but have to keep in mind that you could be pushing them away if you do whether true statements are made or not.

I applaud Fathers who do a good job, I just don’t think my ex does!

Residency is a difficult issue as slanging matches are usually one persons word against another unless you have witnesses to events, but fight you must for the sake of your children.

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29 Nov 07 #8121 by soulmanuk
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my stbx doesn't want to see our kids only when there is a family get together. she walked out and got a residency order to say they live with me and it was not open for discussion. she is going around telling lies probably the guilt. she is spending money on her new house which belongs to her new partner and has told the mortgage company to repossess the FMH. i cant afford to pay all the debts by myself and she as offered nothing towards them. she as been dragging it out now for 13 months. the only way i can get her to court is to let the mortgage company do it. her sol is just messing around in sorting things out. so its not just dads that are B*****ds there is also bad mothers.

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