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29 Nov 07 #8099 by escapy
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how do you get a father to spend more time with his youngest son. He can now find time to go away withnew girlfriend on his birthday, but hasnt spent a hole day with youngest for 6 wks may be more. Can i apply through courts to make them spend more time together. currently only has him one evening a week, while he lives with his eldest son. No weekend time with him and no contact inbetween visits, . So cross for my youngest, sad for my middle one who is away and to return to her home with a new person and eldest who has to put up with his dads new and busy sex life. Ps only known lady for 4wks. ! how do you caope.

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29 Nov 07 #8101 by Specialdad
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Sounds like your ex is not thinking with his head but with something between his legs!!

As someone else said on the site somewhere you cant force anyone to contact their children only try to reason with them.

I always put my kids first before anyone else and they appreciate it a lot and so does my ex.

So hopefully your ex will have a cold shower and get off the humping bandwagon long enough to give time to your son.

All the best B)

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29 Nov 07 #8106 by escapy
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thank you, he never put time with home and family on his top priority list unless the public were watching.may be if i hadnt jumped i would have been pushed. we had to be together 25 yrs before he would take time off with me. muggings.

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29 Nov 07 #8116 by Camberwick green
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My x2b thinks with what little is between his legs too, its all me me me! You start thinking “why did I stay?”

Hope You can knock some sense into him

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30 Nov 07 #8161 by Fiona
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"God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time."

Robin Williams (don't blame me, I didn't say it)


Sorry, you can't apply to court to force a parent to see their child and you should bear in mind that it would hardly be in the best interest of children to make an unwilling parent see them. :(:

On divorce/separation there is often a lack of empathy, distorted communications and blatant overreactions that leads to resentment and resistance. People then just react against anything their former partner suggests and the thing to try is reverse psychology. By that I don't mean denying contact, rather you distance yourself and get on with life as though you don't care about what he does. There is more chance your husband will engage if he feels that, at least as far as contact is concerned, you are not the enemy. Coping isn't easy and you need to seek support from wherever you can. On a practical level friends and family may help and and counselling can be useful in dealing with the emotions. Chin up.

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30 Nov 07 #8172 by loobyloo
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Quote from District Judge to me back in june
Mrs .... "whilst we are able to restrict access, we can not enforce it" Just about sums it up i thnk
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