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02 Dec 07 #8245 by SerieA
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Help I'm confused, after contacting the CSA recently to check up on the progress of my case as i have not heard from them since july, i was told that my xtb was contacted in August and they had been waiting on information from him as he is self employed and they were not having any joy getting the information they require to assess the claim, as a result they have contacted HMRC and were informed that they have no records for my xtb since 1997, bearing in mind that he has been supposedly self employed with an accountant for the last 10 years this worries me, upon receiving this information the CSA said they were going to contact his accountant directly and would have to give him 2 weeks to supply the information requested the deadline for this was last week, they still hadn't received anything so he is now going to be given the courtesy of a reminder!!! and have another 2 weeks grace...where is the justice in this? Why are they being given such leeway? Can someone explain? Surely my xtb who always has stated he is self employed should have tax returns somewhere, i'm confused and worried that HMRC haven't any records, has he been untruthful about his job all these years, will he end up owing the taxman? What chain of events have i set in motion as a result of contacting the CSA? :ohmy:

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02 Dec 07 #8254 by tigstheterror
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couldnt you speak to him and arrange your child maintenance privately? What was the reason for the divorce and also did you give him a choice whether he wanted to be resident parent for the kids?

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02 Dec 07 #8272 by SerieA
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Hi we recently split in april after 19 year relationship(13 years married) he decided after three months of counselling that he wanted out of the marriage, he has since left the marital home set up new home with new partner (whom he claims he wasn't having a relationship with whilst we were married but has agreed to divorce on the grounds of adultery as long as i don't claim costs against him and her)is insisting that the house and car be sold, claims he will pay the mortgage (which he made sure was in his name only) until house is sold but is unwilling to help financially with regards to our 10 year old son, our son is to reside with me but he wants access every day and every weekend as he has suggested that this will enable me to work full time in order to support both myself and son as he feels that he cannot sustain the £905 mortgage that he is paying as well as afford to live with his new partner in their new home. I work part time, earn a considerably lower wage than him and i feel that I am being bullied into caving in to his demands in order for him to move on freely unrestricted financially.
He says now that the CSA are involved that he won't have to pay as he is paying the mortgage and that i need a reality check as i'm going to lose everything! unless i do as he says (seems to me thats gonna happen if i do bend to his demands) As a result of a valuation being done on the property it looks like a Mesher order may have to be put in place which has angered him even more so no we couldn't arrange it privately, Im at my wits end, i've got xmas looming and god knows how i'm gonna pay the bills as well as make xmas as enjoyable for my son now that we are all apart!, if i didn't have my son i can tell you that i wouldn't be here to see in 2008.:(

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03 Dec 07 #8293 by Fiona
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Unfortunately the CSA can be inept and cases involving the self employed who do not wish to comply is fraught with difficulties.

The CSA aren't the only problem here and I'd suggest (assuming you haven't already) consulting a sol to find out where you stand and investigate your options.

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03 Dec 07 #8316 by SerieA
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Thanks Fiona, yeah i have a solicitor they don't like to get involved with the CSA, but i'm sure that the information required with regards to his income as well as his tax returns will be provided in due course by his solicitor as I had to provide the same!.:)

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03 Dec 07 #8321 by loobyloo
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Hi serie
I too contacted csa in summer i phoned last week to see what was what , they still trying to pin x2b down to answer thier wuestions actually im not holding out much hope for an iniment result cos when you phone them they say they are sooooo busy and only one office for all new cases.... but isnt that there job!!!!
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04 Dec 07 #8370 by tigstheterror
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Right SerieA, well he is correct, you don't seem to be complaining whilst your living in his house mortgage free and he has offered to have your son every day and also at the weekend, so has he asked you for money for looking after him whilst he has your son.... I guess the answer is no? Sorry but you can't have your cake and eat it and one thing you have to remember he is the father of your son and you are the mother so you both have rights to see him as so does your son have the right to see you two.
There is too much of this " the woman should get everything and then screw the father to the ground" He is paying the mortgage which you are not making any contributing to and he is offering shared responsibilities to your son and no doubt you will not be contributing to him feeding your son clothing him or taking him out... again I guess the answer is no.
Once the house is sold then its a different matter. However providing he still contributes to your son and that you get a solicitor to agree on the payments then what are you complaining about.
My ex got £22000 from me and I paid her £8000 car off as well as an £800 student loan. After she got all that money she had the cheek to ask if she could stay in my house whilst she got a mortgage sorted out... this I agreed because I could not see her and my three kids on the street. She started messing around and stopped me seeing my kids. She also said If I paid her £100 per month then she would be happy, I asked her for her bank details so I could set up a standing order.. this did not materialise. I then forked out £1700 to get her into court so that I could guarantee access to my kids.. she repaid me by going to the CSA. They contacted me on the 2nd Novemeber, I refused to give any info over the phone and told them to sort this out in writing..... a few days later I had a detachment of earnings slapped on me and they are taking £140 per week now from me. They have not even looked at my proper earnings and now I am having to take them to court.. I think the whole divorce and childrens issue needs to be sorted out properly.
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