My 15 yr-old D wants to move out of her mums and in with me. She has had problems over the past 12 months and is just not happy with her mum. I've tried to smooth this over as it will be very difficult for me to have her full time but the situation just gets worse and she is now talking about leaving anyway. At this stage I'm calling her bluff but what if she does. My ex seems to take a hard line approach which involves trying to control D's life.
Any advice? How would I go about making this happen as I guess my ex will fight it.
well 15 year old girls can be very manipulative...perhaps shes nt getting own way with her mum and feels youll be the softer option
If your ex a good mum, putting your differences aside, and brought her up well then put the blockers on it, but on other hand if you feel your daughter is genuinely gettig a raw deal then have her say for a trial but youll need to be firm with her
As teenager have a hard time enough and its not an easy time for child or parent
hope you sort it out
Thanks Looby, that's pretty much what my partner said. I've been putting the blockers on it for the last 2 months and have spoken to my ex and D about it. Things get better for a while and then seem to get right back to the start.
In the end there isn't much your ex can do if your daughter wants to try living with you. Why don't you agree to do it for a trial period of, say, three months? Your daughter may think it will all be wonderful and she won't have normal parental restrictions if she goes to you but of course you will have to keep her in bounds as any parent does, so she may find it's no better (from the point of view of a teenager wanting to do whatever she wants without interference) than being with her mum. It may work, it may not; but you both seem to be trying to be good parents and co-operate, at any rate.