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11 Feb 08 #13607 by anneg
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my ex sees the kids each sun. He has broken court orders x2 and nothing was done aboutit. This sun he took my 2 and his partners 2 out so there was 4 kids in the back of her car. My eldest who is 5 sat on partners daughters knee she is 12. I am so angry. I have tried to con sol but nojoy. I am now stopping contact. He has taken this to far.

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12 Feb 08 #13609 by attilladahun
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I am now stopping contact.

Don't do this unilaterally...contact is the right of a child...

The issue here is protection..get solicitor to send a letter with a shart agreement for H to sign undertaking not to expose C to such risk and insisting C have booster cushion/belts on etc.

Tell the H that in the absence of H not signing the letter contact will not continue and you will seek a specific issue order/ prohibited steps order if necessary.

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12 Feb 08 #13610 by anneg
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he agreed that months ago. What makes it worse is 2 yrs ago we all nearly died in a horrfic car crash. Its made my ptsd flare up and dd also had nitemares last nite.

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12 Feb 08 #13612 by IKNOWNOW
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I agree with Attiladahun to a point. There are ways you can control contact without stopping it completely. A court will look badly on you (rightly or wrongly) if you stop contact completely. You could set down ground rules in a solicitors letter and ask him to give his assurance or you could look at using a contact centre. Do you have any other issues regarding his care of the children? As you have 2 children and his new partner has 2 children this would appear to be an ongoing issue which needs looking at. Don't ignore it, but don't make things worse for yourself by stopping contact.

Believe me, I know where you are coming from, I have issues with my children being cared for properly when they are in their father's care. Just don't do anything hasty, until you have something sorted, maybe tell him he cannot take them in the car. You really need to seek advice from your solicitor regarding this. Attiladahun is a solicitor, so don't dismiss his comments without thinking long and hard.

I know it is tough and I wish you all the luck in making the right decision.

Regards, Sarah

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12 Feb 08 #13617 by anneg
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thanks i really will take advice from sol, i do want the kids to have contact, there has been other issues as well. He just cant stick to what he agreed in court, he doesnt put the kids 1st at all, he seems to think he is above it all. Its driving me mad, i have minimal con with him. But i now need to keep my kids safe and if the courtr dont see it like this then i dont know what else to do. I cant trust his judgement or parenting skills. He has broke the law and i have a feeling nothing will b said. When he broke the court order x2 the judge didnt even say a thing. Thanks again.

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