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I would like Dad to see kids more

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23 Feb 08 #14857 by rubytuesday
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I hope it's okay to post here, as the children's father and split over 7 years ago.

I'm not quite sure where to begin. I have always wanted the children and their dad to spend as much time together as possible, I don't think it is right that they or he should miss out on time together. Things were fine until he got a new partner about 4/5 yers ago, since then things have been difficult.She has a son of her own, aged 7. Dad can't quite seem to understand that his children need to spend time with him on his own, he thinks it is okay for their precious time together to be spent as one happy family, which is not always what my/our children would like. I have no problem in them being together as a family (as that is what they), but wish that Dad would understand his children's needs.

Since moving, we are now approx 5/6 hours by car away from Dad, and I do my best to help by taking the children to an agreed meeting place (not quite half-way, but it is convient for everyone). As he is more or less restricted by school and work hols now, things have tended to be a bit of a juggling act, but we get there, with some compromise. I would like him to spend more that a week here and there with him, ie 3 weeks in the summer, and for him to visit a few weekends a year (or as many as he likes!). They keep in touch by phone and webcam, but it is often me who instigates the webcam contact byt texting him and asking if he can meet the kids online at a certain time. In the past, he has often lapsed with his phone calls, sometimes it has been 3/4 weeks in between calls. he said he was busy - how can you be too busy for you own kids.

Am I being too demanding? I would appreciate your thoughts and comments. I read this particular section a lot, and am saddend at the number of non-res parents who are being denied access to their own children. Don't give up!


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23 Feb 08 #14889 by Emalou33
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you are not being too demanding, I think to myself my husband has so little time for our daughter what would happen if anything hapenned to me? By law she would go to her Dad, but my Mum is more involved in her life than he is....
I cannot figure it out at all, my ex in the last three weeks has responded to one e-mail with one line, and that is all the contact he and my daughter have had. she calls him and leaves messages and mails and textx and he ignores her, I just find it incredulous. I have to work so hard at keeping them in touch and i just think why should I bother?

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25 Feb 08 #14976 by unic
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wish my x2b was like you two!

Sadly in my case she has played vulnerable victim and eroded the contact I have had with my kids by quite successfully alienating me from them using a huge range of ploys.

Now reached the point where my son no longer comes - absolutely heartbreaking

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